Chip Conley

Why Everyone Has Midlife Wrong

Chip Conley is the founder of Joie de Vivre Hospitality, an advisor to Airbnb and the author of 5 books, including his most recent work; Wisdom at Work: The Making of a Modern Elder

In this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, he talks about wisdom, curiosity, and what it means to live a good life as you age.



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How Chip Conley lived and died 9 times within a 90 minute period [2:24]

What he says about a divine intervention [5:10]

Chip Conley talks about psychedelic experience and why art is at the center of life [6:15]

How we’re being possessed by smartphone screens and not having real-life experiences anymore [8:11]

How to “tap into” the atmosphere of burning man without going to a big festival [9:03]

The nametags people wear without realizing it and the mindsets we carry about our lives [10:37]

Chip Conley provides thoughts on the value of society. [12:40]

The U-curve of happiness and how you get less happy each decade until mid-life [15:39]

Why he joined AIRBNB at age 52 and became the modern elder [16:54]

The value of energy, curiosity, passion. [18:54]

Why pattern recognition is so important for living an awesome life [19:12]

How to foster curiosity [21:25]

The recipe for Chip Conley’s success [22:40]

Check out appreciative inquiry [23:17]

Why the difference between presence and absence is an iPhone. [25:54]

Why presence is more valuable now than it’s ever been before [26:02]

The ritual of burning man and the hero’s journey [27:27]

What’s interesting about life? [29:30]

One of the most valuable questions in business is “what business are you in?” [32:41]

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs [34:34]

Why 5 of his friends committed suicide and what he took from that [38:05]

The difference between attain mode vs. attune mode in life (important!) [39:37]

Why he wants to make aging aspirational again [41:15]


“The more digital we get, the more ritual we need” [8:01]

“The #1 thing that people have to do to understand their mindset is to first identify it, then imagine a different point of view for it, then own that new point of view for it, and then actually start talking from that new point of view.” [11:16]

“The kind of questions that are asked in a leadership meeting tell me everything about the culture.” [24:08]


Brian Chesky [6:36]

David Cooperrider [23:17]

Tim Ferriss [26:45]

Steve Jobs [31:17]

Peter Drucker [32:39]

Ted Levitt [32:41]

Abraham Maslow [34:22]

Viktor Frankl [34:23]

Lao Tzu [34:34]

Bill Gates [37:30]


“What Business Are You In?” Harvard Business Review [32:41]

Man’s Search For Meaning [34:56]

Emotional Equations: Simple Steps for Creating Happiness + Success in Business + Life [35:54]



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