Are you on the verge of a breakup? Have you been disrespected one too many times and don’t know what else to do but draw a line in the sand and set an ultimatum? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore when and how to set boundaries and what’s actually driving your desire to create and set an ultimatum. They discuss the differences between setting boundaries and ultimatums, why disrespect and a clash of values might be the cause of your relationship troubles, how to adapt to change in your relationship, and how to handle growth with your partner in terms of boundaries and limitations.
Lines | Lisa and Tom discuss setting boundaries and ultimatums in your relationship. [0:32]
Values | Tom and Lisa discuss how to compromise over your clash of values. [3:05]
Change | Lisa and Tom discuss why your boundaries adapt and change. [5:50]
Growing | Lisa and Tom discuss why growth will always be a factor in your relationship. [7:25]
“You’ve got the boundary and then you’ve got the consequence for the boundary. They are very different.” [1:13]
“If somebody has such disrespect for where your boundaries are, the problem is the disrespect. It’s not about ultimatums.” [1:23]
“What I find is people often don’t understand their emotion, but they trust their emotion.” [4:41]