Tom & Lisa

Sex Chats For A Better Relationship | Relationship Theory

Communication is an essential part of great sex. But many people worry about hurting their partner’s feelings by bringing up the topic — especially if they´re not feeling satisfied. These conversations can bring up a lot of anxiety and can cause you to avoid having them. Thus, damage your relationship in the long run. But there are strategies to make these conversations easier. In this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down and share how to talk about sex with your partner even if you´re afraid to do so. Now you have the chance to learn easily what they had to learn with great difficulty to make their relationship last for over 20 years. After watching this episode, you´ll know what the right moment for starting the conversation looks like. You´ll understand how to prevent triggering your partner. Why asking for flowers isn´t unromantic and how to guide your partner, so he knows what makes you happy. Furthermore, you´ll learn how to handle your emotions when you´re getting triggered and how men can articulate sexual attraction in a way that makes women feel good.

SHOW NOTES:

Why you should talk about sex if you´re not sexually satisfied. [00:37]

How does the right moment for starting the conversation look like? [3:21]

This is how Tom and Lisa used the movie “Rush Hour” to end one of their biggest fights. [5:35]

The most powerful question Lisa asked in the marriage. [7:33]

The mindset you need to have to improve any area of your relationship. [8:10]

Avoid this communication mistake to prevent triggering your partner. [9:45]

What Lisa and Tom don´t do (This radically improves their relationship.) [11:10]

Why asking for flowers isn´t unromantic and how to guide your partner, so he knows what makes you happy. [12:00]

What “communication is key” does actually mean and how to implement it. [15:00]

How to handle your emotions when you´re getting triggered. [16:00]

What happens to most relationships, so they end up in an unhappy relationship. [17:00]

How men can articulate sexual attraction in a way that makes women feel good. [18:56]

The difference in how women and men think about sex (If you don´t understand this, you think the other side is crazy.) [20:03]

QUOTES:

“If you’re not ready to talk with your partner about sex, you’re not ready to have sex.” [1:05]

“I take on the ownership of: “What am I not giving you?” Because to trick ourselves into thinking we are always giving our partner exactly what they need all the time is absolutely putting blinders on.” [8:12]

“Does this person love me? And if the answer is “yes” then I know that there is no ill-will, so whatever they’re trying to do, I am gonna give them grace and understanding, and I am gonnabe open and receptive.” [16:40]

“Women need to feel loved to have sex, and men need to have sex to feel loved.” [20:03]

FOLLOW TOM:

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FOLLOW LISA:

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