Tom and Lisa

How to Identify a Pattern of Betrayal & What to Do to End It

Has your partner betrayed your trust time and time again to the point where it is becoming an exhausting pattern of behavior? Do you struggle being able to walk away from the relationship due to the time and level of commitment you both have put in? Whether it’s time to end the relationship altogether or to take big steps towards fixing the underlying problems, something has to change for the pattern to be broken. On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore what to do when your partner has a pattern of betraying your trust and when to know it’s time to fight for them versus when it’s time to walk away. They discuss what to look for when establishing trust, the commitments you need to see to begin trusting again, why you need to know your self worth, the importance of knowing why they have a pattern of betraying you, and actions you can take as a couple to work through the pain and begin moving towards positive results and a process of healing.


Recognizing Patterns | Lisa and Tom share when to know it’s time to walk away. [0:34]

Committed | Lisa and Tom discuss the commitments needed to work past being betrayed. [3:15]

Know Your Worth | Lisa and Tom share the importance of knowing what you deserve. [5:01]

Why | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of knowing why they betrayed your trust. [5:53]

Action | Lisa and Tom share how to work through patterns of betrayal and begin healing. [7:02]

Results | Tom and Lisa share the importance of putting in the work and seeing change. [9:29]


“Don’t trust what somebody says, don’t even trust what they do, but always, always trust a pattern.” [1:51]

“There is something driving this and actually figuring out what’s driving it and processing through is the only thing that would be of interest to me.” [6:54]

“…no, you have a pattern of behavior and until you address the underlying cause, this pattern of behavior is going to continue regardless of what your deep desire to fix it is.” [8:52]










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