Tom and Lisa

How to Know Whether it's Time to Move In or Move On

Moving in together can be one of the biggest steps you take in your relationship. When do you know it’s time to make the move, why might you or your partner have hesitations, and what should you do if your partner keeps making excuses to not do it? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss these matters and more as they explore what you should do if moving in with your loved one is proving to be more difficult to make happen than first anticipated. They discuss what to do when they’re not ready for the move, why you should be logical and honest, why you should know whether it’s worth it or not to even be in the relationship, how to approach the move like a written contract, and why you need to be absolutely clear on what your needs are with your partner.


Moving In | Lisa and Tom discuss what to do if your partner isn’t ready to move in. [0:16]

Logical | Tom and Lisa share their story of moving in together. [2:32]

Honesty | Lisa and Tom discuss why you have to articulate the ‘why’ behind your decision. [3:33]

Worth It | Tom shares the time when he weighed the sacrifices of being with Lisa. [6:04]

Contract | Lisa and Tom discuss how living together should be treated like a contract. [8:17]

PTSD | Lisa and Tom discuss why you need to be open about your past living situations. [10:53]

No Bullsh*t | Tom and Lisa discuss why you should be clear on what your pain point is [11:57]


“…no, he’s just not that into you.” [1:07]

“It isn’t that he didn’t want to get married, it’s that he didn’t want to get married to me.” [4:35]

“What would have to be true for you to be willing to move in with me?” [12:02]










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