Living with insecurity, a lack of confidence, and a constant need of approval from your partner or others is never a healthy way to build a long-lasting and stable relationship. On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore why it’s crucial that the only person you rely on for validation, approval, and self-confidence is yourself. They discuss why you shouldn’t rely on others for validation, reasons you might be relying on others in the first place, and why feeling safe with your partner is crucial.
Validation | Lisa and Tom discuss why you need to find your own self-validation. [0:29]
Reasons | Tom shares theories to why you might seek validation from you partner. [3:17]
Feeling Safe | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of feeling safe with your partner. [6:09]
“…you need to find validation in yourself and not seek it from other people.” [3:10]
“In a relationship, I believe one of the most important foundational elements is to make the other person feel better about themselves when they’re around you than they do when they’re not.” [5:05]