In any healthy and lasting relationship, effective communication is necessary. Unfortunately, in a relationship you don’t always agree on how to arrive at the outcome, even when you both agree on the end result. Tom and Lisa break down strategies that have worked for them when they don’t see eye to eye. How they communicate and get to the root of what is actually going on is one of the most important strategies that have helped. Finding common ground over the things that are mutually beneficial and that ultimately, bring you together is a powerful technique to getting past the small things. If you need to find better ways to communicate this will help you learn how to peel back the layers that are blocking your progress and happiness, and get to the center of what will move your relationship forward to the next level together.
Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships.
Don’t Judge | Tom explains why the #1 rule is to not be judgemental of each other [0:57]
Golden Ticket | Able to communicate, insecurities and pettiness to get pass the major shit [2:40]
Vulnerability | Why it feels good and validates you even when your perception differ [4:57]
Different strategies | Why it’s better to align over the goal not on how you get it [5:38]
“The only baseline element that is needed for our belief system to make sense as a growth mindset.” [2:10]
“If I had to put my finger on and say this is where we’ve really won, it’s that we’re able to communicate our insecurities, our pettiness, to get beyond the tea as we call it.” [2:47]
“Whatever your like thing is, even if it’s petty, even if it’s insecurity, even if it’s jealousy, strip the emotion away and just say what it is” [4:17]
“If you do want to get this result out of me, this is actually a tweak to strategy that I think you need because otherwise I’m not going to be able to get there” [6:52]