Tom & Lisa

How to Not Let Your Insecurities RUIN Your Relationship | Tom & Lisa Bilyeu

Family relationships are so important. Within the same family both healthy and unhealthy relationships can exist. The relationships you have with different family members shape you and impact your view of the world. Sadly there seems to be those few people in every family that always get a pass on their bad behaviors. They do something unacceptable or say something outrageous and everyone is like, ‘it’s okay, you know how she is.’ How much poor behavior is excusable and tolerable when they continue to hurt feelings and cross the line? If you’re like Lisa, you may be the person that feels compelled to step in and call out the bad behavior, but does that resolve anything? If you’re like Tom, it may be easier for you to not engage and be more dismissive of their disruptive behavior. Either way, Tom and Lisa break down the advantages and disadvantages to both responses and share strategies for how to respond (or not respond) when it feels like a losing battle.


Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships.




Stepping In | Lisa on when stepping in makes situation worse and can be just as bad [0:52]

Accept People | How to see that inappropriate behavior can come from insecurity also [4:21]

Boundaries | Be clear on where you draw the line there is no moral insecurity to fight over [5:32]

Feeling Attacked | Why feeling attacked doesn’t mean you need to convince anyone [7:02]

Being Right | The problem trying to prove you are right and knowing a losing strategy [12:30]




“Inserting myself into a situation where it’s you and someone else, especially if it’s a family member. Now I’m just becoming more of a problem than I am the resolution.” Lisa Bilyeu [3:17]


“When somebody is able to get under your skin, it’s because you’re insecure. And when they’re trying to get under your skin. It’s because they’re insecure.” Tom Bilyeu [6:02]


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