Every relationship experiences times when you feel less appreciated or your partner says or does something that leaves you feeling hurt. How do you let your partner know that you’re not feeling appreciated? How do you let them know what they said was kind of hurtful? Tom and Lisa have lots of experience to share and in this episode they’re breaking down simple tips to help you open up to your partner without making them feel attacked. Sometimes the hardest part of addressing the things that hurt us in our relationships is doing so without putting the other person on the defensive. It’s all about the delivery and timing with your partner that determines how successful you are in communicating your feelings.
Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships.
Start Positive | Lisa explains why starting with positivity helps your partner hear you [0:42]
Be Authentic | Tom shares why being respectful and honest when giving feedback is best [3:09]
Timing | Know the best time to have conversations before it builds up and being tactful [5:18]
Key to Kingdom | Tell your partner about the behaviors you want from them beforehand [8:27]
“When you start with something negative no matter what I say after that, […] you almost don’t hear it.” Lisa Bilyeu [1:18]
“If you criticize somebody, they are at least for a brief period of time, they are going to feel attacked” Tom Bilyeu [3:58]
“Tell the other person how to reach you in difficult moments, tell the other person when a good moment is for something like that, and then deliver it in a way that is tactful and not aggressive and not meant to be hurtful.” Tom Bilyeu [5:49]